tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post111403452758921004..comments2023-10-20T09:43:39.318-04:00Comments on Frumpter: Shalom Bayis Explosion Waiting To Happen at Mom's House.Zoe Strickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1114177487068724512005-04-22T09:44:00.000-04:002005-04-22T09:44:00.000-04:00I appreciate your comment. What topic can be more...I appreciate your comment. What topic can be more charged for humanity then the proper interpretation of G-d and the universe? Any way you look at it, whenever the topic of religion comes up, somebody is always going to be positing a view that will inevidably threaten another's view of his own existence and will threaten the validity of his lifestyle based on a superhuman rationale that cannot be argued against because there is no dude behind the curtain or some human figurehead that runs the whole thing. Religion -- any religion -- has different factions with different interpretations as to how to act or what G-d told whom to do or not do and when to do it or when to abstain from it and which "it" will cause salvation and which "it" will cause eternal damnation. <BR/><BR/>Within Judaism, everybody believes in the same laws, or at least everyone has the same story about what is going on. The problem is that there are people who break away from the mainstream and form their own opinions as to what they think G-d wants from them by adding in their own feelings into the laws and thereby creating new "laws" which really are invalid; the breaking off of the various sects [if it was not done due to geographic dispersion and differences in interpretations based on the jewish common law in a certain jurisdiction] are generally based on the group's opinion of to what extent Torah and the commandments apply to them or not and to what extent the practicing members should incorporate the commandments into their daily practice. Where the slight differences in practice and customs are based on the geographic separation of various jurisdictions, all opinions are held to be proper even if they need to be worked out internally; where the difference in practice is based on an individual making his own decisions as to what is right and what is wrong, what to follow and what to discard, this is where the fragmentation of the religion happens, resulting in a separation of groups, i.e. conservative, reform, orthodox, chassidic, etc. I hope this continued to be a helpful response.Zoe Strickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1114170269631269262005-04-22T07:44:00.000-04:002005-04-22T07:44:00.000-04:00This particular blog entry was enlightening. I am...This particular blog entry was enlightening. I am not Jewish but I see patterns here that can be reflected in all religions. I was tormented by certain friends and family members when I married my husband because he was Catholic. He also was scolded and shunned because he was marrying a non-Catholic. I am a Christian but within Christianity I see branches admonishing other branches for having it all wrong. Some even claim that certain branches are not true Christians. I know this also happens in Islam and now after reading your blog I see it happens in Judaism. As for worrying that your mother will never get to visit or see her grandchildren, I do not think that will happen. Time heals all wounds. And even if it doesn't "heal" the time will be enough for her husband to get over whatever bug crawled up his butt.Daphnewoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07031895782046396168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1114144405019754042005-04-22T00:33:00.000-04:002005-04-22T00:33:00.000-04:00If there is one thing I've learned from having two...If there is one thing I've learned from having two jewish grandmothers, it's that the guilt trips don't stop no matter how old you are...Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484654935243574664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1114140884383921542005-04-21T23:34:00.000-04:002005-04-21T23:34:00.000-04:00I have nothing against sucking it up and going. T...I have nothing against sucking it up and going. The issue is a moral one - does one give in to a bully when you know that in future years and for future holidays the same argument will be made. If you give in this time, next time it will be Rosh Hashanah, then Yom Kippur, etc. The problem here is not my dislike of his company; the issue is one of appeasement -- whether to give into his threats knowing that he will only demand more in the future. <BR/><BR/>Thinking about it, the real answer is that my mother shouldn't have brought up these threats on his behalf, and she should not have shifted the problem to me. I love my mom very much, but she should have handled him herself. I am not his child, and even if I were, I am no longer a child. Threats, guilt, coercion and punishment will only push me away. We owe nothing to each other except to be polite and cordial because he is my mom's husband and I am my mom's son. I did not choose him, and our only relationship is two men who are related to the same woman. I am not even raising the respect issue or any of the other issues that would stop me from going in the first place.Zoe Strickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1114093383800274352005-04-21T10:23:00.000-04:002005-04-21T10:23:00.000-04:00why don't you just suck it up and go to your mom's...why don't you just suck it up and go to your mom's house for one seder and go to the one of your choosing the next night? Is it different in the lubavitch world? Do you not have a seder on the first AND second nights?Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484654935243574664noreply@blogger.com