tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post111576037082617600..comments2023-10-20T09:43:39.318-04:00Comments on Frumpter: Magical MomentsZoe Strickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1115823848043622822005-05-11T11:04:00.000-04:002005-05-11T11:04:00.000-04:00Thank you (both of you). In a way I am consoled b...Thank you (both of you). In a way I am consoled by expressing my feelings on a page and knowing that it is out there for the world to read. Also, I really don't want to dwell on it for too long. It was my mistake for misunderstanding the situation; I thought it was something other than it was.<BR/><BR/>Still hope: I had that same thought when I heard the bad news. I asked the shadchan (matchmaker) to go back and find out what exactly was the problem. <BR/><BR/>Regarding speaking to her directly: Now it is too late. A decision, specifically a no decision in the shidduch system must be respected. During our meetings, we spoke about religion, but it didn't occur to me to think that she wasn't on the same level as me -- these are things that the matchmakers resolve before we even meet. <BR/><BR/>Can you be a little less [Chassidic]?: Reading this and seeing that this post is anonymous, my heart jumped because I think that maybe you are her, and that I am fooling nobody except myself by thinking that I am anonymous on this blog. Being more or less Chassidic isn't an issue, and although the goal is always to be as much as you can be -- I have always felt strongly that if the situation required, I would be fully comfortable being not chassidic at all, as long as my actions are within the realms of Jewish law (halacha). <BR/><BR/>How Chassidic am I?: I am a Lubavicher. My secular past is strong, and so when I say I am chassidic I mean that I follow the minhagim (customs) of a Lubavicher, which by their nature are Chassidic. I learn Chassidus (mysticism), and I believe in the concept of a Rebbe, and I am very strict with regard to kashrut (keeping kosher) and making sure that my attributes are refined so that I can be a servant of Hashem (G-d) and so my actions will be good in his eyes.<BR/><BR/>Keep in mind that I wear a tie to work, I am not always exclusively in white shirts and black pants, I wear sweaters, etc. I have a long beard which I keep neatly tied up.<BR/><BR/>If you get to know me perhaps by reading my blogs, you'll know that I am a regular guy. I love a good sports game, a good video game, a good hearty meal, and a good movie. However, none of these things define me or are connected to the fibers of who I am -- these are just things I enjoy.Zoe Strickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1115783207348063212005-05-10T23:46:00.000-04:002005-05-10T23:46:00.000-04:00I know this sounds silly, but maybe there's still ...I know this sounds silly, but maybe there's still hope. Maybe speak to her directly so that you understand what her concerns are. Maybe hearing it from her will be more comforting. (And how chassidic are you?) Can you be a little less so?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1115774435576084252005-05-10T21:20:00.000-04:002005-05-10T21:20:00.000-04:00I am really sorry Hirsch. If you need an ear to b...I am really sorry Hirsch. If you need an ear to bend, I am here for you.Daphnewoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07031895782046396168noreply@blogger.com