tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post112219652941258258..comments2023-10-20T09:43:39.318-04:00Comments on Frumpter: Bad For Your Spiritual HealthZoe Strickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1122312081331673792005-07-25T13:21:00.000-04:002005-07-25T13:21:00.000-04:00*** JMO, please sign up for an account on blogger....*** JMO, <BR/>please sign up for an account on blogger. I value your posts, and I would like a way to contact you via e-mail if I ever wanted to or if I had a question for you. Just because you sign up for a free account on blogger doesn't mean that you need to have a blog. ***Zoe Strickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1122311868740839932005-07-25T13:17:00.000-04:002005-07-25T13:17:00.000-04:00I can relate to your comment on an American Standa...I can relate to your comment on an American Standard and International Waltz. We (my competition dance partner at the time and I) learned them both. I never figured out the other kind of Waltz that you see in the movies. (I think it's called ballad or something, haven't thought of the name in years).<BR/><BR/>Chacha and Tango were also American Standard (never learned Argentine Tango but loved the way it looked); Rhumba we learned both American Standard and International -- we kicked butt in International. Salsa and Samba were my weakness. Never loved swing or hustle that much... too much jumping, not too much technique or grace.Zoe Strickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1122300544419648072005-07-25T10:09:00.000-04:002005-07-25T10:09:00.000-04:00Zoe, I'm sensing a lot of change in your life and...Zoe, I'm sensing a lot of change in your life and coming your way. Maybe "she's" finally coming for you. I enjoyed your comment to JMO. Slightly off topic, I know the feeling of longing to dance, cha cha & the waltz were our best dances, we won awards, we were top of our class. I miss most of all the feeling of flying when you've "really" nailed the perfect waltz. The dreamy mood that can set in, the ultimate feeling of romance that you cannont get from a mere human. *sigh* oh to be very filthy rich and do nothing but dance, dance dance. Incidentally, did you take American standard or International? I miss the Canams most of all.Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01446435491941733971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1122272910184803872005-07-25T02:28:00.000-04:002005-07-25T02:28:00.000-04:00JMO,I was excited to see your comment with this qu...JMO,<BR/><BR/>I was excited to see your comment with this question. I feel that you and I are only now getting a chance to understand eachother. Let me give you a real life example to answer your question. (In short, no).<BR/><BR/>Today I spent a few hours with a female friend from college. We worked together after college and we became good friends. We also shared an interest in latin dancing (cha cha, rhumba, salsa, etc) during my pre-frum days. <BR/><BR/>Today we were walking near the pier and there was a group of Salsa dancers dancing. We were tempted to join them.<BR/><BR/>We didn't, but it wasn't because we were trying to be frum. I was ready to dance and if it weren't 100 degrees outside and if we weren't just starting off on our walk to our destination some 25 city blocks away, I would have danced and so would have she.<BR/><BR/>We actually discussed this later. She came up with the rationalization that since we are in galus, there is a permanent state of impurity on us, so touching wouldn't matter. I didn't know whether she was right because I lacked the halachic knowledge on that topic, [and in my heart I think she was probably wrong in her logic], but I was ready to dance even knowing it was assur (forbidden) and there probably weren't any leniencies that would make it okay.<BR/><BR/>So as you say JMO, if I danced, we both know that would have been inappropriate. The fact that I'm at a point where I'm trying to find out where I am holding and the fact that I would have danced in public does NOT make it okay. If when you are in a similar scenario and you felt that you COULDN'T dance (or do other public acts), then baruch Hashem -- that is a really good thing. Our nefesh elokis (soul) should not be letting us do things that are against the Torah. The fact that I'm not feeling the fear of G-d that I should in this and related scenarios is MY WEAKNESS in my yiras Hashem. This is a problem where my nefesh elokis has been covered up by all the shtus (junk) I have filled my head with.<BR/><BR/>This is a problem and I need to address it and fix it. It is not an okay thing.Zoe Strickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1122230159319414762005-07-24T14:35:00.000-04:002005-07-24T14:35:00.000-04:00I'm just curious (because of experiences I've had)...I'm just curious (because of experiences I've had)...<BR/><BR/>Do you rationalize your behavior while you act improperly? Because I, personally, can't get myself to do certain acts in public or with another person. I know our backgrounds are very different (since when I act improperly, I'm acting against my upbringing while you are acting in consonance with it) which might lead to different feelings towards various behaviors. So, I was just wondering what how you deal with the situation. Am I unique? Or do our different backgrounds explain it all?<BR/><BR/>JMOAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1122227092411423442005-07-24T13:44:00.000-04:002005-07-24T13:44:00.000-04:00good post.I wish you hatzlachagood post.<BR/><BR/>I wish you hatzlachasmbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00425290796472256844noreply@blogger.com