tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post113232750565128936..comments2023-10-20T09:43:39.318-04:00Comments on Frumpter: Contemplating Being Modern-Chassidic.Zoe Strickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-1132586460720626332005-11-21T10:21:00.000-05:002005-11-21T10:21:00.000-05:00a marriage will never work whereby you cannot agre...a marriage will never work whereby you cannot agree on some base things. My minister who presided over my marriage and gave us premarital counselling for over a year prior to our vows to one another, made it very clear that there are some basal things that are so central to your life, that you are in fact unable to change. I found comfort knowing that it is not "difficult" to change these things but in fact "impossible" to change inate characteristics and needs that go back to young childhood. Since performance arts are a passion with you, sin or not, this is a very real part of you, and should you actually succeed in ridding these things, they will never leave your heart, and eventually you will become resentful, angry and upset with life and your wife inadvertantly or not. I think it is best to match yourself with a woman of the same intensity as yourself, the same passion and need for success as yourself, with the same familial values and someone who you can see as a good and kind wife and mother...the rest, I say, come second.Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01446435491941733971noreply@blogger.com