tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post4323282116769929772..comments2023-10-20T09:43:39.318-04:00Comments on Frumpter: Thank you reader for calling me an "ass."Zoe Strickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07940789852735669214noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-6056554794523174562009-01-22T20:29:00.000-05:002009-01-22T20:29:00.000-05:00Sorry, Zoe, but you quite deserved the drubbing. ...Sorry, Zoe, but you quite deserved the drubbing. ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-63702367282549493452009-01-12T10:09:00.000-05:002009-01-12T10:09:00.000-05:00Thanks. That was encouraging.Thanks. That was encouraging.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-10802563350918131072009-01-12T09:24:00.000-05:002009-01-12T09:24:00.000-05:00I am happy that you realize what you are. The firs...I am happy that you realize what you are. The first step to making yourself better is admitting what you are even if what you are is an ass, terrible husband, and insulting jerk.szarferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02187861840396718837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-47892718740219246062009-01-11T21:22:00.000-05:002009-01-11T21:22:00.000-05:00I think you also need to be stricter with your kid...I think you also need to be stricter with your kids. You shouldn't have to sit for a half an hour putting a kid to sleep. Put him in his room, tell him you expect him to stay in his bed until he falls asleep, and leave his room. Indulging your kids doesn't do you or your kids any favors. You're driving yourself nuts for no reason.<BR/><BR/>About your wife, stop expecting so much. If she's still the way she is after two years of marriage, chances are she'll always be that way. At the same time, don't let your life hang on her performance or lack thereof. Create some private spaces/times which you firmly request she not interfere with. Like, create one space at the table that is off limits to everyone except you. At least that way, that spot will always be clean.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-29378119007701630672009-01-09T19:05:00.000-05:002009-01-09T19:05:00.000-05:00The shiksa here agrees. You need to focus on what'...The shiksa here agrees. You need to focus on what's important: and here's a hint, the coffee cup isn't it. If you want to have kids, mess is a part of it. If it bugs you, hire someone to help or pick it up yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10890885.post-84133533789541071112009-01-09T14:05:00.000-05:002009-01-09T14:05:00.000-05:00Zoe, your wife has a toddler and a *newborn.* It ...Zoe, your wife has a toddler and a *newborn.* It sounded like the brother who was supposed to help ended up being even more of a burden... And then she hast to deal with not feeling well, her baby getting sick and then you getting sick on top of it.<BR/><BR/>Really, that child is on a 3-hour schedule right now (I'm guessing.) Her first, primary, and maybe even only responsibility right now is to figure out how to deal with a new baby on top of take care of that toddler.<BR/><BR/>Most women have at least one relative *actually helping* until they get the routine with the new child down. Someone responsible should have been there for at least the first two weeks, if not the first month.<BR/><BR/>A messy house is NOT what you should be worrying about right now. If it's driving you insane, see if your parents (or hers) can help you two afford to hire some cleaning help.<BR/><BR/>Why are you expecting your mother to applaud your willingness to hold your sick son's hands all night? That is *expected behavior* from the father of a newborn.<BR/> <BR/>Using words like "betray" to describe a minor lack of consideration on her part (waking you up late at night to care for the baby when that's what her brother was there to do)... that's worrisome. There is way too much hostility in your marriage. You need to find some way to resolve it before it starts affecting your children. Have you two considered couples counseling?Ahuvahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12313911386166259760noreply@blogger.com