Wednesday, August 03, 2005
Twin Shidduchim, May I Date the Other?
Update: I have been trying to figure out how to best move forward with this blog. The first thing you'll notice is that many blog entries have been edited. The reason for this is that the last shidduch has found her way onto my site, and I don't want to leave my old thoughts and feelings about past shidduchim sitting on the web for future shidduchim to see. While this is not the end of the world -- everyone gets discovered eventually -- a new shidduch prospect has come up, surprisingly from three shadchanim (matchmakers) at the same time.
She is the cousin of the girl I dated, and they have quite different personalities. They both know about this, and I take no credit nor blame for it happening; it feels like a weird turn of events. Before this new one dates me, she wanted to find out why I would date her cousin who [to my new knowledge] was not religious [she wasn't? was I duped?], and why I would overlook the [serious] problems of the first one and let it go so far (almost to an engagement). In short, it seems that while these two cousins are close, they are competing with each other when it comes to shidduchim.
I feel defensive because in my heart this could be a set up, but nevertheless, it would be quite interesting if G-d had a sense of humor and set me up with the first one to prepare me for the second one who in the end became my wife.